Adopting an Older Child from Foster Care: Joel and Stephanie - Good Shepherd


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December 22, 2021

Why is the family interested in adopting an older child?

We became interested in adopting older children when we learned about the overwhelming need. The older a child gets the less likely it is for them to be adopted and this was heartbreaking for us to learn. We decided the best thing we could do was to do our part and bring some of those kiddos home with us.

What advice would you give to an adoptive family that is waiting to be matched?

Be patient and try to keep your focus on the wonderful life you’ll have with the children you eventually get. It’s easy to be discouraged and disappointed during the process. Hold onto the beautiful life you’ll have with your new family and take time to recharge yourself so you’re able to focus on the kids when they do come.

What is a myth about the adoption of older kids you’d like to change?

That older kids are “damaged goods.” Yes, these kids have been through tough times and yes, it likely won’t be rainbows and butterflies when you take the kiddo in. However, kids in the foster system have developed incredible strength and all they need is someone to love them and believe in them. If you can provide that, you could be the one thing that makes a real difference in a kiddo’s life.

How has the experience been working with Good Shepherd thus far?

We’ve had a great experience with Good Shepherd. Christina has been here to help us, she’s read through our novel length emails and has taken time to help us better understand the process. She’s been supportive and helped us manage expectations throughout the process.